What do we need in our Relationship today. What is our goal, what do we hope to achieve. And how do we hope to achieve them.
Below are five ways to achiew a better relationship.
1. MAINTAIN A RELATIONSHIP THAT’S BUILT ON MUTUAL TRUST
It’s important that your partner trust you. It’s important that he does not question you when you tell him where you were or what you were doing. It’s important that he believe you when you tell him how you are feeling, he does not doubt you. It’s important for you to be with a guy who you know will be honest with you.
2. FIND SOMEONE WHO IS PROUD OF YOU FOR YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENT, BUT LOVES YOU UNCONDITIONALLY, WHETHER OR NOT YOU’RE SUCCESSFUL
It’s a wonderful feeling-being with someone who encourages you and is proud and supportive of everything that you do. You should feel like they will never be intimidated by the goals or ambitions that you have. But more importantly, you should be with someone who loves you unconditionally. Someone who loves you for who you are l. You avoid the terrible misunderstanding of thinking that you need to be accomplish something in order to be loved.
3. UNDERSTAND THAT THAT THE TWO OF YOU ARE GOING TO DIFFER IN OPINION ON A LOT OF DIFFERENT THINGS
He/she needs to respect your opinion. He/she needs to acknowledge that you have the right to believe, whatever you want to believe. But you also need to respect his/her opinion. You need to embrace the fact that sometimes he/she will say things or think things that will baffle you. This is part of begin in a relationship.
4. REMEMBER THAT INDIFFERENCE IS WORSE THAN ANGER
Don’t be afraid to argue. Don’t be afraid to have fights. Don’t be afraid to disagree with each other. As long as you’re communicating in an effective way, where both of you are sharing how you feel and listening to how the other feels, it’s okay to get upset or annoyed, it’s okay for him feel that way with you. Your relationship isn’t in trouble when you feel indifferent about one another. So fight (in a healthy way)
5. FIND SOMEONE THAT ISN’T TRYING TO CHANGE YOU
Yes, he can inspire you. He can make you want to be better. He can bring out things within you that you never knew you had, things you never knew you were capable of. But at the same time, it’s important to make sure he’s not trying to change you. He may believe that you’re capable a lot, and he may therefore encourage you to keep trying and keep growing and keep pushing yourself. And that’s okay. Just as long as he’s not trying to change your very nature, the essence of who you are. Be with someone who loves you and adores you and appreciates who you are. And be that same person for him. Love him, encourage him, support him. But don’t ever try to change him.